It happens...

Is love just a case of hormonal imbalance. I tried looking into it and based on my personal experiences and study of the opinions of my peers i realised that yes love is something which makes you realise the presence of someone special. you tend to be with him/her most of the times, distances ne'er really matter for there are phone calls ending in hours, sight of a gorgeous looking girl eventually turns unimpressive and many more attributes do we find. When did it start is an obvious question people in love ask to one another and the answers which most people come up with is "i ne'er realised when did it happen but yes i liked you very much from the first day " or something like that. let me quickly summarise the process of love i believe in. Love at first sight is just too exceptional case for me for this world is no more of predictive nature in this era of technological and social advances. you happen to come across your partner,there are small chats, you start looking into eyes for some extended durations, friendship is always there but you tend to make your partner realise that you felt like telling you this and that and all sort of chirpy talks. There perhaps the hormones pertaining to emotional bondage tend to ooze out and the first line of love gets marked in some corner. This phenomenal stage is followed by the most important phase i perceive and i call this part as " The Expectations". One is expected to do, say, and follow and at the same time it's marked as important that one remains true whether to react as expected from one's point of view and at the same time, the other is expected to realise why did his partner fail as he or she expected on certain duties like reacting to comments or stay on certain commitments. Initially this phase is dominated by the promises and a lot of changes are generally observed, and when sensibly made or followed life is all beautiful. Human limitations are marked by certain characteristics one has as a trait or something one learns while he grows up in a certain kind of society. These limitation may be in the form of certain priorities which people generally forget before following upto these stages of love and all of a sudden these priorities resurface and the stage of compromises and adjustments begin. In a true relationship i'd expect my partner to love more than me but as this stage of compromises begins the more loving one adjusts and by default in general case "taken-for-granted" thing comes into picture. In the backdrop the question of how important am i arises? Meanwhile, "The expectation" stage continues with the other partner and thus a definite phase lag prevails. The smarter the one tends to be and tries to mould, the bigger the problem gets and the best solution lies in telling the truth. Surprises are the best way to impress in any distressed situation and a momentary flame of love glitters again. All this happy and sad portions continue in patches and loyalty holds the key and at the same time the truth also holds the clue. Normally, people tend to look for the ideal match but what does this ideal match stand for. Is it the same mindset, ideologies, etc? To me the ideal match lies in the level of understanding and this level is again based on the expectations. The best way to look for the best match is spend time and tend to get interactive. The attitude, looks, etc. are only temporary and love doesn't see them as limitations. Finding love only lies in the method of exploring people and making friends. Your best friend as your love is an ideal situation and perhaps the best one can expect .Without your knowledge somebody might be interested in you and when expressed, the solution does not lie in getting carried away. This sense of infatuation shouldn't be confused, it's something which has been gifted to we the humans as a force which drives us towards the cause of friendship. The hormones continue to effect the heart but it's the brain which thinks. The happy ending stage actually ne'er really exists in the feeling of love. One might argue - one marries and gets settled is something called happy ending, but it is to be realised that the sensation on the touch of fingers, emotions, understandings, etc. continue till the last breath and if at any stage one feels like getting the things together alone then it's the time to realise the other one is being left behind. As the time passes, the relationship matures, love also grows and this feeling should mature from expressing in words to perceptions of feelings and expressions. Pursuit of love should ne'er really end for it's the most beautiful thing one can have in his/her life, a boon to survive the ordeals of the world.